My honeymooning officemate was  incommunicado for a week.  Of course, we understand that they needed all the time to be alone together.  However we need to bother her for a while because there is one  urgent document  schedule for discussions that we’ve been looking and apparently not in her file.   So, we have  no option but texted and also called her because the Fellows Program Director was already getting “toxic”.  Toxic is the word we use for people who are giving us hard time in the office and we have a lot of those kind….

When I finally had the chance to talk to her,  her voice was sombre.   I have no time to pull out a joke on her because I can sense that she was not in the mood for my silly comments.    Instead, I told her right away the urgency of my call.  After talking to her as  I mused, how I wished that she  is notexperiencing the so called Post Wedding blues.    I’ve heard that most brides fall prey to a condition like this and sufferers are said to feel desperate and low and transition from being single to married life is not nearly so smooth.

Some brides go through this ordeal- Post Nuptial Blues

Being her office mate, I’ve seen how she had gone through the Pre Nuptial blues and I also felt sorry because depression and pressures of months of wedding preparation slowly got into her nerves.   She sometimes can’t concentrate on her work and would burst into tears when she was weary and still having those cluttered wedding ideas in mind.   It was only a week before the wedding that  she and her fiance was  able to go on leave from work and had finally had the chance to concentrate on the final and heady days of wedding preparations.   Such a tough situation they were into that time but they managed to pull through by delegating some responsibilities to selected friends and their family members.

If my suspicion is indeed true, I am confident that they will get over it I am sure!   One surefire tip is to be prepared to let go of single life in a way and embrace the new married status.   And they should allow a period of adjustment. It is entirely different now from the courtship, dating and steady phase.   Feeling married and behaving married really takes time and adjustments  and acceptance.  The major change will be living with your husband and soon you will find out that his endearing habits before may soon become  annoying and you will start to feel depressed.   I am sure that most couple in a way experience the pre nuptial blues and now the post wedding blues as well.

Well, it is true that “Marriage is a life sentence”….